Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Do They Even Know What They Have?

I overheard a conversation today of this girl talking to her dad. She is married and in my semester of nursing school. She just found out that she is pregnant, due in November and will not graduate for about a year after that. She was crying and telling her dad that she cannot do this and she can not do both. She even said she did not want this right now.
My heart sank when I heard this. Over the last year or year and a half, I have had several friends that have felt like they have been in a similar situation where they did not feel ready to have children, did not want a child yet or flat out never wanted children.
Whenever I hear someone express these kinds of ideas and feelings, it breaks my heart. I always get super sad and have to fight back the tears so that they will not see me like that and so they will not feel bad. However, it always makes me sad because since I have been married, I have really wanted to have a baby. There are very few things that I desire more than to be a mother and many times I feel like I would be willing to give anything to have a baby right now.
When we were dating and engaged, Chase and I talked about what we wanted to do on this subject. We decided that we were not going to do anything to prevent pregnancy but not necessarily going to try to have a child.
It has been official for almost 6 months, but we are a clinically infertile couple. It breaks my heart to feel like this is something that I have to struggle with in this life. I have always had the desire to be a mother in Zion.
I cannot even express how many gallons of tears I have cried over this issue and every time I think I may be pregnant, when I realize I am not, the pain is almost unbearable.
Do these girls who cry about being pregnant even realize what they have? Do they realize what a gift it is to bring such a wonderful, special spirit into this world?
Why do so many take this privilege and blessing for granted? Do they realize how many people do not get to experience this? Do they even think about the feelings of those people who may never experience that wonderful life giving power?
I hope to someday be able to feel the joy and excitement of being able to know that I will be able to give a body to one of our Heavenly Father's spirit children. Someday I hope to be able to know what it feels like to have my husband rub my stomach and talk to our little one. Someday, I hope to know what it feels like to have my little one doing somersaults in my stomach. I want to be able to hold my little one, right after giving birth, and wonder if this is how Mary felt while she held her little boy. Or is this how my mother felt while she held me for the very first time.
I wish someday I will have that privilege and opportunity to experience the life giving power that so many of my peers seem to be devastated by. It amazes me that what destroys one woman's dreams is the exact same thing that will complete my deepest dream and desire.

1 comments:

GlendaLynn said...

You're such a sweetheart, Ashlee. I wish for you all that you wish for yourself, because it is such a righteous desire. Heavenly Father knows you, knows your desires, and knows just how to bless you. Thanks for being my friend.